Questions And Answers: Women

As per guru and śāstra, women are to serve their husbands and children devotedly. However, the ultimate goal of life (kṛṣṇa-prema) requires a lot of sādhanā. Will serving the family become an obstacle towards the goal? Also, how can women go back to Godhead in one lifetime?
Questioner: Harshita Sharma
Date: 2022-10-04
Jayapatākā Swami: Lord Caitanya advised that we should do yukta-vairāgya.
Everything we do, we do as an offering to Kṛṣṇa.
So, ideally the wife can marry a devotee of Kṛṣṇa.
Just by assisting him,
she is also directly doing devotional service.
If she is not so fortunate to have a devotee,
she can also try to bring up her children in Kṛṣṇa consciousness.
She can offer bhoga to the Deities
and take prasāda and give prasāda to the family.
There are different ways one can engage in devotional service.
I had the good fortune of visiting many gṛhastha families,
seeing how they have Deities,
how they are offering the bhoga,
offering āratī to the deities.
Some people have picture altars,
some have Deities.
So, we are seeing how the families are spreading Kṛṣṇa consciousness,
how they are practicing.
This is the way that one can achieve success in this lifetime.
Category: [Day-to-day Life / Married life], [Day-to-day Life / Parents], [Sādhanā / Philosophical questions], [Sādhanā / Sevā], [Varṇāśrama / Gṛhastha], [Women]
Can females be liberated without getting married?
Questioner: Devotee
Date: 2022-09-21
Jayapatākā Svāmī: Without being married.
Ah, there is no such stipulation that liberation is dependent upon getting married.
But it has been recommended very strongly that women should be married.
But as far as being… What if a girl dies when she is twelve, or something?
It’s not, it’s not lean on the soul that you have to get married to go back to Godhead.
It’s a question of what consciousness you’re in when you leave your body.
If you’re in Kṛṣṇa consciousness, you’ll go back to Godhead.
In a general sadhana practice of devotional service,
it’s conducive for women to be married and have a Kṛṣṇa conscious husband.
If the husband is not Kṛṣṇa conscious, then there is a problem.
But actually, the husband should be Kṛṣṇa conscious and the wife should be Kṛṣṇa conscious.
In this way, they give each other association.
I can elaborate.
But we’re on short of time right now.
But it’s not contingent on going back to Godhead, per se.
That is not contingent on any material thing.
It’s contingent on chanting Hare Kṛṣṇa, serving the spiritual master, following his instructions.
Hare Krsna.
Category: [Day-to-day Life / Married life], [Kṛṣṇa (Godhead) / Spiritual World / Dhāma], [Sādhanā / Philosophical questions], [Sādhanā / Technicalities], [Women]
Did Caitanya Mahāprabhu ever agree on deity worship done by women?
Questioner: Devotee
Date: 2022-08-25
His mother did deity worship in her house, Mother Saci, to Kṛṣṇa and Balarāma.
His mother did worship in the house and offered prasāda.
In the big formal temples, generally male pujārīs are there,
but sometimes if they fall sick their wife may also come in, somehow they have to keep their worship going.
Category: [Vigraha Āradhana (Deity Worship)], [Vigraha Āradhana (Deity Worship) / Home Deity Worship], [Vigraha Āradhana (Deity Worship) / Temple Deity Worship], [Women]
How a woman convince herself to bond with someone when she knows that all material relations are temporary and the only eternal bond is with Kṛṣṇa ?
Questioner: Purnima
Date: 2022-10-22
Jayapatākā Swami: You see,
if one
worships Kṛṣṇa,
chants Hare Kṛṣṇa,
reads Bhāgavatam, Gītā
and other Kṛṣṇa conscious things,
you can make use of this
temporary relationship
*repetitition*
to
be Kṛṣṇa conscious.
To help others be Kṛṣṇa conscious.
and some people have certain desires
so you can regulate these desires
and
cross over all the obstacles.
Although
things are temporary,
they can last for this life.
If you have a Kṛṣṇa conscious husband
then you can practice your Kṛṣṇa consciousness
very peacefully.
So it is important
that a man finds a woman
and a woman finds a man who is krsna consciousness or atleast favorable.
at least favorable.
Maybe you can make him a devotee.
I know some women
who have overestimation of their ability
to make people devotees. (Laughing)
Category: [Day-to-day Life / Married life], [Material World], [Sādhanā / Philosophical questions], [Vaiṣṇava Dealings], [Vaiṣṇava Dealings / Etiquette / Sadācāra], [Women]
How do the women distribute books when they are busy with work at home?
Questioner: Anon
Date: 2022-08-01
Jayapatākā Swami: Now in every country there is a situation and procedure.
In the West there is no problem.
Women and men mix freely.
Women go for preaching and book distribution and there is no problem.
But in Bangladesh I cannot say much.
As per Bangladesh culture, I don’t know if unwed girls can go with men.
That the leaders of Bangladesh can say.
But mostly the ladies cannot mix with men and men cannot mix with women.
This way if women mix with women what is the inconvenience?
I don’t know if there it is convenient for women to go along with men in Bangladesh.
In the university there are hostels for women, there the women can go.
Ordinarily, the Hindus have a separate hostel.
And men cannot go to women’s hostel.
This way women can go and distribute books in the women’s hostel.
When I was in Montreal, I used to go the university hostel to distribute books.
Women are generally at home, they can in the evenings or when they are free they can distribute books.
In this time of pandemic, many people distribute books through the telephone or internet.
Here every day 100 or more Bhagavad-gītās, 10 or 12 Śrīmad-Bhāgavatam sets, Caitanya-caritāmṛta 2 or 3 sets are distributed.
Today was the birthday of a devotee, therefore, from our virtual book table they donated 50 Bhagavad-gītās.
Because I cannot go to all, I have this virtual book table and the devotees donate here.
Some people send by courier and some just donate.
That way you can call your friends, relatives and distribute the books.
His Holiness Bhakti Vijaya Bhāgavata Swami knows very well in this regard.
Every day the boys in the saṅkīrtana team distribute books.
There are ten buses but they are not able to go but still they distribute books.
Category: [Women], [Sādhanā / Book distribution]
If a devotee husband is occupied with thoughts of his devotee wife, is it contradictory to devotional life?
Questioner: Devotee
Date: 2022-09-10
Jayapatākā Swami: It depends, what the thinking is.
We saw in many households the wife is worshiping Deities, cooking bhoga and offering to the Deities.
So like that the wife is showing a good example of serving Kṛṣṇa
and if that inspires you and helps you to increase your service,
then that remembering is good.
But if you are simply thinking how you are going to enjoy her,
then even though she is a devotee that will be less important.
Category: [Day-to-day Life / Married life], [Saṁskāras], [Women]
What is the duty of women in Kṛṣṇa consciousness as a girl?
Questioner: Devotee
Date: 2024-04-27
Jayapatākā Swami: Varnāśrama has certain duties.
But in Kṛṣṇa consciousness every devotee, every girl for instance, also has to understand Kṛṣṇa consciousness and preach it to others.
Last night a lady asked me, “What to do if our husband is not Kṛṣṇa conscious?”
Then I said, “Become a Bollywood actor.”
That means, you go up to your husband, and tell him, do you know what this means – Bhagavad-gītā, show him a śloka and say, you are a man, you are intelligent, can you tell me what it means?
Like this trick your husband to read the Bhagavad-gītā!
Category: [Women]
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