Questions And Answers: Emotions / Fault-finding

Can you explain why Puṇḍarīka Vidyānidhi found fault in the devotees? What does this pastime want to teach us?
Questioner: Kairava Candrikā devī dāsī
Date: 2023-07-10
Jayapatākā Swami: That sometimes the activities of the Lord and His devotees
are beyond the scope of the scriptures.
And Puṇḍarīka Vidyānidhi, he was basing his conclusion on the scriptures.
So he was saying it was alright for the Lord, because He is beyond all rules and regulations.
But somehow, he was not appreciating the devotees.
He thought that they should follow the rules.
So this shows that sometimes,
devotees are also on a very elevated platform.
Category: [Emotions / Fault-finding], [Kṛṣṇa (Godhead) / Pastimes]
How this fault-finding mentality affects our devotional service?
Questioner: Girijā
Date: 2023-07-10
Jayapatākā Swami: Vaiṣṇava-aparādha is described as a mad elephant.
It can destroy our devotional creeper –
it is very dangerous
to have offensive mentality.
Category: [Aparādha (Offenses)], [Aparādha (Offenses) / Vaiṣṇava-aparādha], [Emotions / Fault-finding]
How to stop fault finding. I do it even if I don’t want to. How to give up this bad habit?
Questioner: Harihara Caitanya dāsa
Date: 2022-08-01
Jayapataka Swami: It could be a very good habit,
if you use it on yourself.
You find all the good qualities of others, and all the bad qualities in yourself.
Don’t be like a fly, who sits on the sores.
So we follow the third instruction of Lord Caitanya in His Śikṣāṣṭakam.
We should give respect to others, and not expect any respect for ourselves.
Category: [Anarthās], [Emotions], [Emotions / Fault-finding]
I am in association of devotees for the past eight years. Just like any other devotee I could admire all positive aspects of other devotees. While at one point of time there is a fall in the graph when only the negatives of other bhaktas are only visible. I think many other devotees feel the same way as well. Guru Mahārāja, how to overcome this mentality of fault finding. Is there any particular reason why such thoughts are appearing in my mind?
Questioner: Devotee
Date: 2024-02-08
Jayapatākā Swami: Someone asked this kind of a question to Śrīla Prabhupāda.
And Śrīla Prabhupāda said that the temples are hospitals –
spiritual hospitals.
When you go to the hospital you see sick people.
It is natural.
That is what hospitals are for.
Some are doctors, they treat the sick people
and there are nurses who help the patients.
They are not as qualified as the doctors, but they serve the patients.
So like that, devotees will have some defects
until they are perfect.
But we see the good qualities in others,
see all the good qualities, all the things that they are doing for Kṛṣṇa
and see the defects in ourselves.
So don’t be like a fly
which always goes to the cut wounds and stool.
See the good qualities.
We try to see where we can improve.
It is not a competition like in the material world.
Not by putting others down, we will go up.
They tell me in the corporate world someone is an operations manager, someone is a quality control manager,
someone is the marketing manager.
So one manager tries to screw up another manager
so that he can be promoted to general manager.
So this thing is there in the material world.
Not like that in the spiritual life.
Kṛṣṇa rather sees how you cooperate with others.
How you help others.
Not how you fault find in others.
One of the qualities of the devotees is nirmatsarāṇām,
freedom from envy and fault finding.
So, everything we can dovetail,
except that one thing,
that thing we have to renounce.
Category: [Anarthās], [Aparādha (Offenses) / Vaiṣṇava-aparādha], [Emotions / Fault-finding]
I have heard that we should not offend pure devotees. But my parents, they will not understand, and they criticize. I have tried to reason with them, but they do not listen.
Questioner: Devotee
Date: 2023-09-24
Jayapatākā Swami: There are ten offences in chanting the holy names.
The first offence is to blaspheme the pure devotee of the holy name.
Aparādha is worse than sin.
Sin is something material.
You stole, or lied, these are sins.
But if you do something against a pure devotee, that is aparādha.
A pure devotee is very dear to Lord Kṛṣṇa.
By offending a pure devotee, this is a great obstacle on your path of devotional service.
Category: [Aparādha (Offenses) / Vaiṣṇava-aparādha], [Emotions / Fault-finding]
I have too many negative thoughts about Vaiṣṇavas and I don’t seem to be making any progress in spiritual life. I feel like I will go crazy if this is how it continues. What should I do?
Questioner: Kinjal Lohia
Date: 2022-08-04
Jayapatākā Swami: Follow the third verse of the Śikṣāṣṭaka -
offer respect to all others
and don’t expect any respect for yourself.
Seems like you are not offering respect to other Vaiṣṇavas.
And this is something that we should do.
And when we neglect that, naturally we have to suffer.
So we should appreciate what other Vaiṣṇavas are doing.
And that is the secret of success.
Category: [Emotions / Envy], [Anarthās], [Emotions / Fault-finding], [Sādhanā]
Sometimes we hear non-devotees criticize devotees or our movement. Sometimes we are in a situation when we cannot say anything to them. What should we do in such situations because their words might have bad or huge impact on others too? Please kindly enlighten.
Questioner: Keya Rāṇī
Date: 2023-07-10
Jayapatākā Swami: So there are three options:
Like Satī devī, you can immediately burn yourself up
and if that is not possible,
then you can protest and defeat that person.
If that is not possible,
then leave the place.
Category: [Aparādha (Offenses)], [Emotions / Fault-finding], [Sādhanā / Philosophical questions]
Sometimes we may see someone with different behavior. Although I don’t say anything bad about that devotee, or I don’t want to offend but in my mind, there come many thoughts which may be offensive towards the devotee. At that time, what should I do? Please instruct me.
Questioner: Bhāgyaśrī
Date: 2023-07-10
That we can always respectfully ask the devotee
why they are doing something like that.
If we know that they are new devotees, they don’t know what they are doing,
but if we have to correct them, they may feel embarrassed or something.
So it depends on the situation,
whether it is a senior devotee,
equal or new devotee.
So accordingly, if it is a senior devotee, we will ask first,
if he is equal devotee,
maybe in a more friendly way,
depending on the status
and our relationship,
we should act accordingly.
Category: [Aparādha (Offenses)], [Aparādha (Offenses) / Vaiṣṇava-aparādha], [Emotions / Fault-finding]
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